Sounds like a phrase you would say to a guy who turned his pickup into a monster truck. Maybe a guy who took down a big buck hunting with only a spoon. Maybe some dude who just looks like he is chiseled out of granite and makes all the ladies melt when he walks by.
That’s not the man I’m talking about.
I’m talking about my oldest son Taylor.
Ten years ago myself and some other dads starting to talk about a book we had read called the Raising of a Modern Day Knight and about what it means to be a godly man. More discussions turned into moment of either talk about it or do something.
Praise God for my brothers in Christ because they are men who say “Let’s do something!”
We started to develop and implement what we would call Knights Weekend. We would gather as fathers and sons at a cabin or retreat area to play like guys (capture the flag, paintball, air soft, football, gaga ball, shooting, karate or go tubing or fishing); eat like guys (burgers, steaks, hot dogs, s’mores); and learn what it means to grow and be a godly man.
We used principles from Raising of a Modern Day Knight and another book called Teknon the Champion Warrior.
The boys would be given training, be prayed for, be encouraged, be held accountable, be affirmed, and be challenged by the dads. They would do service projects, lead worship, Bible studies, and share their journeys with the younger brothers coming behind them.
At age 8, each boy was started with ceremonial dubbing as a paige—being called into the journey to pursue God and what being a man of God would be for him.
In the midst they would reach a goal and be affirmed a squire—a new responsibility to go deeper, be held to higher accountability, and be challenged in the heart even more.
Then in a final ceremony, when the boy is deemed ready by the other knights (dads), he’s is invited to manhood, signs a resolution in the witness of dads, and declared so by his dad to be a man, and then giving a blessing.
The following verse is the key:
“When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.”
1 Corinthians 13:11
On July 7th, Taylor took this step and made this commitment. Ten years in the making and now a new process has started. It is a road that will not be perfect but it’s a road that he is now called to AND on!
Why did we do this? Why the investment? Why these defining ceremonies?
Coming of age ceremonies are part of the history of most cultures. Some are over the top painful, death defying, or physically demanding.
We prayed and studied about this process and came to realize there is very little in our culture that points to what a man is supposed to be.
Still it’s crucial for a boy to know when he has crossed over.
The Bible is very clear about what that character is supposed to look like. Like the scripture says, “When I became a man.”
It’s not at a certain age like a driver license or being able to vote. It’s about who you are and becoming not matter what the age.
We each wanted our sons to understand what the standards, principles, values, actions, and most of all heart look like in manhood.
I didn’t want Taylor or my sons who follow behind him to be poorly equipped in this world.
He chose it. He is still going to need to choose it.
I’m proud of him. He is a young man. A Knight.
God is good all the time,
P.S. If you have questions about what we did over the 10 years, email me at peder[at]pedereide.com.